You may have guessed that I’m a big fan of making New Year’s resolutions and setting goals. So, if you’re still considering setting a New Year’s Resolution, or that life changing goal, here are a few thoughts you may want to consider!
- Set goals not for what you’ll obtain, but for what you’ll become! Let’s say you set a goal to acquire $1,000,000.00 before the year’s end. Ok, so let’s fast forward to November and you’re no where near the $1,000,000.00. You don’t want to do something illegal to reach your goal of $1,000,000.00. Yes you’ve obtained the money, but what have you become? You’ve been added to the most wanted list at the post office.
- Set goals so that what you’ve learned in achieving your goal is repeatable. Say you’ve always wanted to write a book; the homework you did to achieve the $1,000,000.00 goal is transferable! You would do your homework, attend seminars, research your topic and put in the hard work to achieve your goal of writing your book. So the next time you want to set a goal or a New Year’s resolution you can use the tactics you’ve learned.
It’s not about you:
- Every goal or New Years resolution needs to be about someone other than you! Of course the number one resolution (since the mirror was invented) is “I want to lose weight”! Ok, your goal is to loose weight, yes you should try to focus on getting in shape, but not just for you, it should also be for your family. Setting the goal of becoming healthier is important, but it takes on a different dynamic when you involve others.
- I once read, “The only thing worse than not setting a goal, is to set an easy goal and achieve it.” This is the time to challenge yourself, stretch your limits and see how far you can push yourself. You often see people make a “to do list” of easy tasks only to check them off as a way to feel the value of success. There’s nothing wrong with that, but make the overall goal a little beyond your reach. The day-to-day goals need to be within reach, with a longer stretch towards the overall goal. As an example, let’s take the weight loss scenario. If you need to loose 20 pounds, but would love to loose 30 pounds, set the goal for 30 pounds, then set daily, weekly and monthly goals that are obtainable. The saying goes “an apple a day will keep the doctor away,” but it doesn’t mean you eat seven apples Sunday night! That’s why you need to set daily, weekly and monthly goals!
It’s all about becoming Disciplined:
- Understand the real value is how you change to achieve your goal. The value you learn from making a New Year’s Resolution is becoming more disciplined. Waking up tomorrow morning without a plan, goal or focus is nothing short of wasting your time and your God given talents! God gave you your talents for you to use to the BEST of your ability. No one else has your talents, experience, know-how or drive. Now it’s your responsibility to use those talents for the benefit of others. Remember, it’s not about you!
Finding success through others:
- Let’s go back to the resolution of loosing 30 pounds. When you’re working towards your goal, it’s best to have a partner, someone to be accountable to so when you eat that quart of peanut butter and chocolate ice cream from 31 flavors, you’ll have to “fess up” and confess you fell off the wagon. Then you’ll have someone to answer to and make that commitment to get back on the wagon.
- You need to be accountable to someone, and someone needs to be accountable to you. It’s part of the checks and balances of setting goals and achieving them. When we help other people achieve their goals, we in turn help ourselves achieve our goals.
The Test of Time
- Every goal should have a time limit. Saying I want to loose 30 pounds is not enough; you need to establish a time limit so you can measure your results. And make no mistake about it, it’s all about your results! At work, we are all measured by the results we produce. Your goal should not be any different! You need to achieve reasonable results, in a reasonable time frame. Setting a time table for your goal is fundamentally important because that’s were you start.
- Start your goal with the end in mind first. Then, work backwards to today as to what your going to accomplish every, day, week and month. So, you can get started by saying, I will to loose 30 pounds in 6 months! That’s 5 pounds a month! And here’s the way to break this down: exercise 3 days a week, eat 5-7 small meals every day that are low fat and low carb, then reward yourself by eating a desert or something you enjoy once a week. You’ll get there by starting with the end first, then breaking it down day by day and week by week.
Take the time, set your goals and find others to help you with your goals and you help them with their goals!
Happy New Years… Resolutions!